About Ana
I help people find their way back home — to themselves.
I’m Ana Vidmar Laharnar, a connection coach from Slovenia. I bridge science and soul: Rapid Transformational Coaching, somatic work, behavioural science and family systems — alongside more than thirty years of learning from horses.
Why I do what I do
I lived the full cost of shrinking to feel safe.
For most of my early childhood, I was the one taking care of everyone else. My parents fought, they were often ill, and when I was seven, they divorced. Then came the years of being the new girl — moving every two years, three primary schools, never quite fitting in. Somewhere in there, I quietly decided the problem was me.
So I did what so many of us do when home doesn’t feel safe: I made myself useful. I read the room, smoothed things over, and put everyone else’s comfort before my own.
I carried that deal straight into adulthood — into a marriage I tried to mould into the family I had always longed for, into motherhood at 24, into postpartum depression, and into years of burning out as a single mum trying to hold it all together.
I did the therapy, the coaching, the courses. And I still collapsed. Because here’s what I finally learned: you cannot out-effort a survival pattern.
Awareness, plus courage, plus the right support is what lets you compost an old pattern into something that nourishes — first your own inner child, then the people you love, then the next generation, who inherit your calm instead of your chaos.
That’s my why.
What I believe
I don’t teach performance. I teach relationship.
Presence over perfection
I don’t teach control; I teach connection. I don’t teach perfection; I teach presence. The people you love don’t need a flawless version of you — they need you.
Depth over quick fixes
Tips don’t reach the part of you that reacts. We go to the root of a pattern — and once you understand where it comes from, change becomes possible.
A safe, non-shaming space
No blame, no labels, no toxic positivity. Just warmth, honesty and directness — like a wise friend who also happens to be an excellent coach.
The hummingbird
Even in heavy places, there is still sweetness to be found.
At the heart of my work is the energy of the hummingbird — the joy-bringer. I believe we are here to experience love, aliveness, joy and connection, and that we experience them most deeply through our relationships. When adults remember their own aliveness, relationships soften, homes get lighter, children feel safer and partners feel closer.
Training & credentials
Science and soul.
- Master’s degree in Biology and Teaching — University of Ljubljana
- ICF-certified Rapid Transformational Coach, trained by Marisa Peer
- FamilyLab International certification — including 1.5 years with Jesper Juul, founder of FamilyLab
- 15 years working with children, teens and their families in therapeutic and coaching settings
- 12 years of somatic and embodiment work
- 30+ years with horses and their wisdom of presence and connection
I work according to the ethical standards of the ICF (International Coaching Federation) and EAGALA (Equine Assisted Growth and Learning Association).
Let’s meet
Your story is welcome here.
Book a free discovery call — a warm, honest conversation about where you are and where you would love to be.
