--- title: "Relationship Coaching for Singles & Partners | Ana Vidmar Laharnar" description: "Keep attracting the wrong partner, or stuck in the same fight? Relationship coaching that goes to the root of the patterns from your past — so you can love without losing yourself." url: https://anavl.com/relationships/ language: en updated: 2026-09-18 --- Relationship coaching # When love keeps hurting in the same place, *look at the root.* Whether you keep attracting the wrong partner, can’t seem to find “the one”, or share a home with someone who feels far away — the pattern usually started long before this person. Let’s find it, and let it go. [Book a free discovery call](https://anavl.com/contact/#book) [Take the quiz first](https://quiz.anavl.com/) Two starting points ## Different stories. *The same inner mechanism.* Single & searching ### “Why do I keep ending up here?” You’re capable, loved by your friends, successful at work — and yet relationships stall, fizzle out, or end in the same painful way. Maybe you’re drawn to people who aren’t really available. Maybe you lose yourself in the first months, or quietly close the door before anyone gets too close. That isn’t bad luck, and it isn’t proof that something is wrong with you. Very often it is an old, protective pattern — formed in the family you grew up in — still trying to keep you safe. **What changes:** you begin to recognise the pattern in real time, choose from self-worth instead of old wounds, and become truly available for the love you actually want. In a relationship ### “We love each other, but…” The same argument on repeat. Walking on eggshells. Feeling like flatmates. Reacting in ways you later regret — or shutting down completely. You know what you *want* to do differently; somehow you just don’t. You don’t need your partner to come to the sessions for things to change. When you change your side of the dance, the dance changes. (Couples are welcome too — but most of my work is one-to-one, because that is where the fastest shifts happen.) **What changes:** fewer explosions, faster repair, clearer boundaries without guilt, and the closeness you remember from the beginning — or have never quite had. This might be for you if… ## You recognise yourself *in more than one of these.* - You repeat the same relationship patterns, with different people - Communication breaks down into blame, silence or tears - There is emotional distance you don’t know how to cross - You struggle to set boundaries without feeling guilty - You fear abandonment — or feel smothered when someone gets close - Deep down, you doubt you are enough - You lose yourself caring for everyone else - You want to reconnect with a partner, and don’t know where to start How we work ## From understanding *to actual change.* Talk therapy and self-help often explain *why* things are the way they are. My clients come to me because understanding alone didn’t bring the change — less conflict, the right partner, more connection. ### 1. Map the pattern Through the Connection Compass and our discovery call we name what keeps repeating — and what it costs you. ### 2. Find the root In a Deep-Dive Session we use RTT and hypnosis-informed work to find the belief underneath, right where it was formed. ### 3. Rewire & embody We replace the old belief with one that serves you, and let your body learn it too — through somatic practice and regulation. ### 4. Live it Weekly support between sessions helps you practise the new way in real life: on a date, in a fight, at the dinner table. Client experiences ## Lighter. Freer. *More patient.* > I honestly didn't expect much in one session — I don't open up to people, I really don't. Thank you for making it a comfortable space. It's literally been pulled out of my head. I didn't think I'd feel this much better after just one session. **Megan** Deep-Dive Session > The rapid transformation really worked! I genuinely feel brand new after it, and the shift in my thoughts, feelings and behaviour is incredible. When I think of the word 'burden' now, it just doesn't resonate the way it used to. **Sumiee** Rapid Transformational Coaching > A feeling of lightness, and a bit more patience. It was so on point — stopping and pausing, and asking if it's coming from self-love or the need for external validation. **Donata** 1:1 coaching > I am amazed at how much freer I feel in my body today. **Danielle** 1:1 session ### Coaching, not therapy Coaching is forward-focused work with people who are functioning in daily life. It is not a substitute for psychotherapy or medical care. If you are in an acute crisis, struggling with addiction, experiencing abuse, or need trauma therapy, I will gently point you towards the right professional. [How coaching differs from therapy](https://anavl.com/faq/#coaching-vs-therapy) Your next step ## Let’s talk about *your pattern.* A free, no-pressure discovery call. You’ll leave with more clarity either way — and if we’re a fit, I’ll suggest the right way to begin: a Deep-Dive Session (€200) or WISE Premium, three months of 1:1 work. [Book a free call](https://anavl.com/contact/#book) [Sessions & prices](https://anavl.com/work-with-me/)